Magnificent tips to conquer self-doubt and find the Hero within You. “The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today.”… Franklin D.Roosevelt.. No one is born into a perfect life. If you were you wouldn’t have anything to strive for, and you wouldn’t have the urge to create something within your life. You wouldn’t have any dreams at all. Whatever circumstances you are born into, whatever family life and education you had or didn’t have, you came here to make your dreams come true. No matter where you are now, you are fully equipped with everything you need to do it… (From the book, “The Hero”, by Rhonda Byrne). During the course of my journey towards the riches, I have come across majority of my audiences cannot achieve their dream because of Self-doubt. The learning I got from these clients has inspired me to produce this article. Self-doubt is common to all human beings. Every one comes across self-doubt at some point or other in the journey of his life. It is reciprocal to your level of confidence. Once you have developed self-doubt different thoughts comes to your mind, which obstructs your path of success. These are: Am I good enough? Is it possible for me? Can I do it? It is impossible? It is risky? It is beyond my capacity? I am afraid of doing? Can I get the job? What happens if I will lose my job? Can I pass the exam? And the like……endless questions or doubts on your abilities. At this point, I remember the wordings of William Shakespeare, in “Measure for Measure” said that “Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt”.. Self- doubt limits your opportunities, productivity & performance by developing lack of confidence in you and sabotages your success. I find highly successful people don’t let self-doubt derail from what the set out to accomplish. Therefore, I would like to reflect in this article 10 most magnificent tips that worked for me and I hope it will definitely work for you to overcome your self-doubt and discover your inner spirit, the “Hero within You”.

 

1.AWARE OF YOUR THOUGHTS

Prepare a journal of your thought and write down everyday regarding your feelings of happiness, troubles, inspirations, what has happened that day and what is your feeling regarding life. Make it a habit. It will give you a crystal clear image of your thoughts. Question your beliefs and find something new. When you are feeling lost, you can read over your journal and search for your true self. Because the things you list are organically you, not a simple reflection of society. Give a space to your thought. This means that distinguish your thought from others. Feel free to think more concretely. Do you actually agree with personal, political or religious affiliations? Is having a career really the most important thing to you? Do a Glass of Thumbs up really make you feel “cooler?” If the answer is no, great! There’s absolutely zero problems with not molding yourself to pre-existing norms. Now all you have to do is unlearn and then relearn. Only this time, relearn based on your gut. Remember that who you are is who you are. It’s not about being bad/good or right/wrong. When we get in to judging ourselves, it stresses us out. When we begin to realize this concept, we begin to be okay with ourselves.

 

2.OBSERVE YOUR FEELINGS

You might have received negative remarks or comments from your friends, neighbors, colleagues or relatives. Have you ever been overwhelmed or weighed down by this? The negative association of another person, an event, or anything can trigger this feeling. This is the stimulus. Realize the problem is inside you, not in the other person. It’s actually a problem that you have control over. Whatever the case, the first step is to notice that you don’t feel good. You’re angry, upset, worried, scared, lost, vacant or any other of a wide range of emotions and feelings that could be labeled as unhappy. Clear your mind of such feelings. First thing is to carefully observe how do you feel to such remarks. You do not have control over the other person. Note is down on a sheet of paper.

 

 3.CLEAR YOUR MIND FROM SUCH NEGATIVE FEELINGS

You cannot clean the other person, neither their thought or situation.. Do not even try to clean them. Instead focus on clearing your mind. The problem is inside. You control yourself. You are the one aware of a problem. You are the one who has to clean it. Saying “I love you”, “I’m sorry”, “Please forgive me” and “Thank you” is the way to clean. Repeat that statement non-stop in your mind while feeling the problem as you perceive it. But don’t just stop at unwavering repetition. Open yourself to applying the concepts behind the words in your life. Remember LOVE, HUMBILITY, FORGIVENESS, and GRATITUDE. Whenever you come across such situation, just try to ignore and do not over react.

 

 4. LET GO THE NEED AND FEELING OF ATTACHMENT

When you first experience the negative feeling or thought, consciously take a step back and observe what you are feeling. Realize that this feeling or thought is not you. You are experiencing it but it is not you. As you continue to clean, occasionally observe your feelings as if you are a third party. Notice how your mood shifts and improves or declines. Move back into your full presence and continue to clean until you become detached from the negativity and let go. You will come to a feeling of peace.

 

 5.HONOR YOURSELF

 Pay tribute to who you really are. Remember that you are unique and that you deserve love and attention. Give yourself the care that you think you really deserve. Make time to be on your own, to take walks, to think about life. Pamper yourself. Take a long cold bath. Make a list of the things you really love about yourself. Look in the mirror and smile. Accept that you are not perfect and love yourself anyway. If you don’t have a solid sense of self worth, You’ll listen to what others have to say all the time and to be swayed by their insistence on what is wrong, right, and appropriate. Learn to believe in yourself and trust Your own feelings. Then, you’ll come up with a structure to base your new sense of self on.

 

6.IMMERSE YOURSELF IN SOLITUDE

 Every person needs time alone, whether they’re introverted or extroverted, single or in a relationship, Young or old. Solitude is time for rejuvenation and self-talk, for utter peace and for realizing that purposeful “loneliness” is not a bad place to be but rather, a liberating part of Your overall existence. Give Yourself some time and space to get away from all expectations, conversations, media, and the pressure. If you’re always rushing around between work, school, and social obligations, then You won’t have a minute to just take a deep breath and spend some quality time with Yourself. This should be everyday exercise at least for 30 minutes. Find a place suitable to You. It can be a long walk, park, beach and temple. In solitude, you should feel independent and self-sufficient, not lonely, needy or afraid. Sometimes simply relaxing and finding other activities can draw you away from negativism and refocus your attention on the positive aspects of a situation. It suppresses negative thoughts by telling yourself to stop and immediately beginning to focus on more positive thoughts and images.

 

 7.RESPECT YOUR INSTINCT

 There is a still, small voice within you, is that mysterious “gut feeling” or instinct that often turns out to be right in retrospect. This inner guide is your personal source of wisdom. It is often difficult to listen to your instincts when world around you pressure you to conform to its dictates. Yet, to find the fulfillment in you seek, you must listen to those hunches and feelings that come to you when you most need them. Your inner instinct is basically how you quickly tap your subconscious mind, which is where you archive all kinds of information that you do not remember on a conscious level. Some times you pick up on things subconsciously without realizing it. Even some of the world’s greatest scientists, the most logical thinkers of all time, have made their greatest discoveries based on flashes of intuition (think of Newton and the apple that fell on his head, or Archimedes shouting “Eureka!” in his bathtub). Ask yourself questions and the first answer that pops into your mind is your instinct. Your personal instincts will grow stronger if you are living on purpose. When You start to listen to Your inner voice, When You start to believe Your inner voice, When You start to follow Your inner voice You discover yourself at that moment” CONCLUDING REMARKS We are not a thing that is set in stone. We evolve, change, grow and adapt to things that are around us. Sometimes, the real you is lost and suppressed by the normal routine job. You may shake your head and come up with excuses such as “no time,” “no money,” “family responsibilities,” etc. And gradually the goals stopped and dreams dead in their tracks. Instead of using these as excuses, start planning around the hurdles in your life. Start planning what you really want to do and investigating what needs to be done to get you to that point. In this journey of discovering yourself, you travel to your darkest depths inside you and see everything you have hidden, covered up, locked, and repressed. In the process you will find the “Hero” within you overcoming your Self-doubt. “It doesn’t matter what other people think of you. All that matters is what you think of you. We lose so much energy worrying about the opinions of others, wanting to be liked. Leadership and personal mastery is about rising above social approval – to self-approval. Respect You.” (Robin Sharma)